at 5A Sussex Street Glenelg, Adelaide, 5032 Australia
Illuminate Counselling provides individuals with Counselling, Wellbeing and Personal Training Services with the aim to bring about balance and wellbeing.
I'm a wife, mother and fitness fanatic who has a love for coffee and the beach. Through my life I've lived the ups and downs, I've worn many hats. I've been too large, too thin, very unfit and very fit! The journey of transformation brought me to where I am today, a healthy individual who lives mindfully and understands the importance of balance and a fulfilled life. As a qualified Counsellor, Personal Trainer, Well-being coach and 23 years experience in the special needs industry, I bring my skills together to provide individuals with a unique opportunity to work through the stresses and issues they may be facing. My goal is to help people build the skills and strategies needed to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I look forward to spending time on your journey with you.
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For Individuals with special needs trying to fit into a conventional world is like trying to squeeze a square peg into a round hole. But they are unique individuals with amazing talents. Just as they are unique, they need us to teach them in a unique way. Unconventional ways for the unconventional. Why bother? Why not just make them fit?? Because we need these clever and gifted individuals, so they can invent, create, make, do the next amazing thing. It takes unique to create unique. The world needs more of that!
The child crying,
the lights too bright, the sound of the air conditioner, the checkout,
the woman on the intercom asking for a price in aisle 9, the person that
brushed you as they walked past, your tag on your clothes rubbing on
your neck....everything, all at once......From what my son describes, sights, sounds, smells they all come at him in a wall of information he spends a great deal of time attempting to filter through.
For me, as Cam got older, it was a little easier to untie that knot.....but it took some learning on my part to get to that point.....until then though, the stress remains.
It was a little ray of normality I was happy to be part of.So I took a pen from my bag, filled in the note and walked back into class.
I thought I had been treading lightly, I felt I had been filtering information to her slowly, not bombarding her in class, before or after school......despite all this, she had decided I was "That Mum".She had decided to do a Parent-Ecotmy.
The staff responded to his needs, for most of the time, with best intention and the awareness of those around him grew to the point that I felt he went to school surrounded by a community of understanding.For me, understanding point of view in this situation, being able to step back, close my eyes and imagine how I might appear to others was of amazing benefit.
There seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel when it comes to your special needs child.With my normally developing daughter, I've always been able to see an image of her grown, as a fully functioning adult.
An awareness that my need as a mother, was to see him successful and engaged in life, and an awareness that there was more than one way for this to happen.
I researched all the successful individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorder and the amazing achievements they've made.I worked to connect with the school so we could operate as a team to better support him.I became a
consumer advocate in local mental health networks and became involved
in consumer support for other caregivers.
Whatever I did, I realised they would only ever see something from their own perspective, weigh it up against their own valuing filter, decide for themselves how they saw it and it didn't matter what I said or how I said it, they made up their own mind.....
What really mattered to me was modeling what I valued as good social behavior and to rant and argue with the general public didn't feel to me, like a good demonstration of social P's & Q's.
The idea of informing the child about their diagnosis is another.For a parent, it's an anxiety raising situation where you know you'll tell them one day, but how you'll do it and when is given more thought than some may realise.I was working with a 12 year old student one day who was struggling to understand what we were learning, he was an Aspie, 'non disclosed'.
When my son was diagnosed as having Asperger's Syndrome, I was able to read some of the literature regarding his condition.
Upon reading a couple of books it soon became apparent where the root source of my own problems lay and subsequent investigation proved these suspicions to be well founded.
At first my reaction in regard to myself was one of relief at finally having some kind of tangible definition for what I had been feeling all these years.
I felt that 40 years of my life had been stolen from me and that, had I known about ASD from the beginning, my life could have been vastly different.
Maybe I could have understood myself a little before now and maybe others could have too.
For Richard Rowe, knowing was many things, but it's his feelings of being cheated out of 40 years of his life that make me sit up and take notice.
How would he have felt about himself for all those years if he knew there was a reason for his social awkwardness?How would his life have been different?
Don't get me wrong, I didn't coat it in sugar, I let him know what it was, why he was like he was and how we needed to work together to help him grow up and be a part of the world.