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Here are some other examples of family rifts and actual cases, some of which mediators can personally helped people resolve through mediation: Visits with grandchildren – Disputes between adult children and their parents Financial disagreements Older parent needing full-time care – Adult siblings were at odds with each other because one was assuming more of the responsibility than the other. In one case, the one sibling went to live on a boat with her husband for several years while the other was taking care of the parent full-time, and most of that time unable to reach her sister at sea. Care of the elderly – Adult siblings of a parent with dementia, who can no longer make decisions for himself, disagree on how to allocate expenses for the care of that parent, or what the best care for him would be. Grandmothers – Sharing the care of their teenage children’s baby with different views on child-rearing Second marriages – Disagreements on how each party raises his/her children Marital mediation where there is no intention of separating – Disagreements within a marriage, where the parties are not able to resolve certain issues without a neutral party’s help. These disputes include, but are not limited to, how they allocate their money, each person’s responsibilities within the home, household chores or care of the children. There may be many other disputes in families which could benefit from mediation. If you know families caught in a difficult conflict, please encourage them to try mediation. Rather than letting the drama escalate and lead to a long-term division in the family, let’s help people resolve some of their issues before they reach a point of no return and more regrets.
This is great reading to remind us TO think first and reflect before WE REACT.. Stephen also mentioned this habit in his book on 7 Habits of Effective FAMILIES. Happy reading friends and colleagues and I hope you pass this on to friends and relatives so that they too, will reflect first before reacting to any incident or action of a loved one or friend, or acquaintance. Tammy Lenski (firstname.lastname@example.org) email@example.com Read this article online Hello, my friend. Sometimes there's a fine line between conflict and no conflict. Here's a story to describe what I mean... "What's Dad doing?" said my sister, a note of concern in her voice. The other three of us turned to see our father making his way through the back yard. He was heading to the corner of the garden that served as our little pet cemetery. He had a shovel over his shoulder. And in his hand was the container holding our mother's ashes. My brother said, "He's not about to do what I think he's about to do, is he?" My two older sisters, my brother and I were sitting on our parents' bed, working our way through my mother's jewelry box. She had used a velvet-lined flatware chest that at some point had held the sterling silverware. It would more rightly have been called a memory box, since it held much more than jewelry: Snapshots, thimbles, pretty buttons, keys to who knows where. "Remember this?" one of us would ask, holding up an item. Keepsake by keepsake and story by story, we worked our way through Mom's life. And our own. My mother had died during an asthma attack. I was 25 at the time, the baby of the family. We were shattered. In the days and weeks following her death, my father seemed to be unraveling. My sister said out loud what we were all thinking: "Is Dad about to bury Mom with dead animals?" We all looked at each other. For a moment, grief was replaced by incredulity. Then my oldest sister said in a whisper, "Has anyone else read Stephen King's Pet Sematary?" Instantly, all four of us began to howl with laughter. "Watch out tonight when Mom comes knocking on the door!" I cried, mimicking a zombie. We fell back on the bed in hysterics, laughing and crying at the same time. Oblivious to the bedlam at the window above him, my father went about his business, digging a small hole, then placing the canister of mom's ashes in it. By hand he put soil back in the hole, then gently tamped the ground. Later, when we'd recovered ourselves a bit, we asked our father why he'd buried Mom in the pet cemetery. We left out the "without asking us first" part of the question for now. "She loved our animals so much," he said simply. "I don't think there's anywhere she'd rather be." Every year as I mark the anniversary of my mother's death, I think of this moment. I think about how scant is the line between fighting and laughing, outrage and forbearance, rigid judgment and flexibility born of love. I think of how easy it is to step on one side of the line or the other just because of whatever happened a few moments before. If the moments just beforehand had been different, I think we could just have easily started a fight that afternoon. If we'd been tense about something instead of telling funny stories and sharing happy memories, our reaction could have swung in another direction. Such is the human condition. We got lucky that afternoon and so I have a funny memory to recall each year in early April, my mother, father, and brother now all gone on. Maybe you didn't get so lucky the last time you straddled that fine line. Maybe I won't be lucky next time I do. Maybe a black mood will change how I shift my weight. Maybe exhaustion will make me short-tempered. If it does, I hope I will have the presence of mind to recall how fine the line is. I hope I'll have the strength of character to request a do-over. It is so much better to have good memories to look back on, even if they didn't start out in that direction. The trajectory we start on doesn't have to be the trajectory we continue on. After Dad remarried and put the house on the market, we went out to the pet cemetery and dug up that canister of Mom's ashes. My sister and I took some of them back to the Firth of Forth, home of generations. The remaining ashes found their final place of rest in the upstate New York family plot as bagpipe music sounded Amazing Grace. In spirit, though, I think Mom really is back with the pets. - Tammy P.S. Earlybird registration is now open for my May workshop, Breaking the Conflict Cycle: The Leader and Manager as Conflict Coac
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Parenting Plans .... extract from Why Parenting Plans Fail | YourDivorceMediator.com Before you construct a parenting plan, don’t think about how many hours you are entitled to see the kids. Think about how to construct a plan that takes into account all the changes in the children’s lives that are going to occur post separation/divorce.
Trying to resolve a family estate conflict but looks like MEDIATION is not acceptable to my own family members if they (my seniors) will continue to get stuck with their OWN personal positions/perspective/opinions. Lord Help us..... family members on the other side of Life ... please HELP US that TRUTH and Justice may prevail..... please help.... please help... I am desperate to resolve this and move on with my life.
Most people wish they’d never started court proceedings long before they end, when everyone is just desperate for it to be over. By then if not before, mediation is usually the best way out and of course, we all know that very few cases go to full trial, so the revenge/ vindication sought is a satisfaction rarely achieved. Mediation is the most probable alternative to court. It saves time, money and stress, so why don’t people try to mediate before issuing court proceedings? There were many theories, but the most persuasive was that many people want to go to court because they believe the judge will agree with them, they will be vindicated, the ‘other side’ will lose, suffer and be humiliated. They will get what they want. Of course, they probably won’t get what they want, both sides feel the same and can’t both be right. Also, the costs frequently exceed the value of the dispute by a considerable margin, so it ends up as a poor investment. Though it’s questionable if applying to court can ever be regarded as an investment; an expensive gamble might be a more accurate description
Mediation in an professional international context Effective communication is as much about authenticity, clarity and credibility as the words we speak. Effective conversation is essential in mediation. Communicating effectively with people from different cultures is often a challenge for mediators, parties or other intermediaries. The World Mediation Summit- Madrid 2014 will be presenting highly professional guest speakers, experts and a mediation training session that will address ways that may be used to communicate effectively with people from different cultures. Mediators should be aware of the ways culture operates in communication and in conflict and the ability to respond effectively to these differences. What is communication between members of different cultures? How and to what extent does culture through language affect the way we act, think and communicate with others of different nationality, culture or background? How cultural differences can play a role in miscommunication. As we all know, all communication is cultural. Communication is interactive and we are linguistically constructed and interconnected. Mediation strategies and methodologies that will curb international, interpersonal, workplace, civil, commercial, conflicts will be part of our training sessions. INTERCULTURAL COMMUNICATION AND MEDIATION There are situations in which language was a significant hindrance to the mediation process. The root of this communication problem can be attributed to several factors like disparities caused by lack of language proficiency, low literacy, lower levels of education, and cultural differences. Also factors relating to effective conversations like these issues: Are they listening attentively? Are we listening well in response? Do they hear and understand what we are trying to say? Do we hear and understand what they are trying to say? Do they understand the words we have chosen and their meanings? Are there differences, interests and goals caused by the different ways we see the world? Is there trust between us? Miscommunication may lead to disputes or conflict especially when there are cultural differences between communicators. The major types of errors mediators make when trying to be sensitive to culture can lead to misunderstandings. How to work on the cross-cultural communication process and the possible reasons of the conflicts. For example stereotyped representations, culture and perception, biases, prejudice, cultural disparities and their effects on the communication process. How to identify the origins of misunderstandings in intercultural communication and their effects on the daily professional communication of mediators. Understanding how intercultural communication creates problems, and surprising conditions for additional language learning and interpretation. How to explore ways in which intercultural dialogue is developed as a model to handle cultural diversity in mediation. How to conduct mediations that are culturally appropriate, competent and oriented towards the recognition of the other, mutual understanding and bringing the parties together. Senior mediators will facilitate this training session to help current mediators find ways to overcome some of these problems associated with intercultural communication like: < Cultivating cultural fluency. < Attitudes and behaviours. < Non-verbal communication. < Time and space. < Fate and personal responsibility. < Face and face-saving. < How mediators can increase transparency and build trust. And so much more. These variables influence the course of communication and can be responsible for conflicts or disputes. It could lead to misunderstanding, misinterpretation, and miscommunication. Understanding these variables and other ways of communication varies across cultures, it will not only enhance relationships but will also ensure a culturally fluent approach to conflict. Importantly, this will help their effective conflict resolution skills. Extract from the World Mediation Summit website. I personally would encourage all practicing and would-be-future MEDIATORS to attend the World Mediation Summit to be held in Madrid Spain between July 1 to 4, 2014. check the World Mediation Summit website for registration details.
World Mediation Summit in Collaboration with World Mediation Organization are offering special registration rates for Groups, Associations, Students to make it to the World Mediation Summit this July 1-5 in Madrid, Spain. check their Website and contact Kevin Brown (www.worldmediation.org)
Anybody interested in acquiring and completing an 18months ONLINE course on Certificate in Mediation and Conflict Management? It is your passport to a very rewarding career as a Mediator. You do not have to do it full time. You can combine this profession together with what you are currently doing.
WMO Program Advisor, Professor emeritus William Zartman: "I am quite impressed with the ambition and organization of the WMO as it seeks to bring together the diverse experiences of mediators - often grassroots mediators - throughout the world and to learn from them. We all need to expand and improve our awareness and practice of mediation." The World Mediation Organization (WMO-Presentation) is the premium network of global mediation centres based in Berlin, Germany. It is an international network of scholars and professionals dedicated to global mediation and conflict resolution. Institutionally it is linked to the Peace Operations Training Institute, American Military University, EUCLID (Pole Universitaire Euclid). The World Mediation Organization provides a global recognized service in conflict management and education. By promoting a culture of peace, it is intended to create enduring solutions to conflicts and tensions created by human interactions, states and organizations.
The WMO Symposium - Bicol 2015 is now completely set up and will take place on June 17th - 19th. Following our professional philosophy: Not a certificate makes you a mediator, but the sustainable change you seed in the world - this symposium is open for professionals and civil peace activists with a professional or private background. Creating peace starts within the own mind, the family and ends up by international relations. We have to bundle our forces, come together, and create an awareness and spread social competence in the prevention and management of escalated conflict. It is you who we need in order to make this world a better place. Join our symposium, get input from outstanding experts, and share your competence and story with us. Become part of our global family and represent those who are in need of our skills...... become a PEACEMAKER, from the grassroots.... your Home, your Family, your Community, your Workplace, your Environment,, and your World. REGISTER YOUR INTERESTS at firstname.lastname@example.org
The WMO Symposium - Bicol 2015 is now completely set up and will take place on June 17th - 19th. Following our professional philosophy: Not a certificate makes you a mediator, but the sustainable change you seed in the world - this symposium is open for professionals and civil peace activists with a professional or private background. Creating peace starts within the own mind, the family and ends up by international relations. We have to bundle our forces, come togethe r, and create an awareness and spread social competence in the prevention and management of escalated conflict. It is you who we need in order to make this world a better place. Join our symposium, get input from outstanding experts, and share your competence and story with us. Become part of our global family and represent those who are in need of our skills
More to come including the Inter-Faith Dialogue
Hi Everyone, The National Training program for MEDIATION & CONFLICT MANAGEMENT (in both separate Advance or Beginners Level), will be held on different training dates and will roll all throughout 2015 and 2016 in different regions of the country as well as ASEAN member nations. We are still negotiating the venues and if we are able to find sponsors or patrons who will collaborate with us to hold these National Training so that COSTS will be lower for all participants across the board. If you know of any educational institution or organization prepared to assist us by providing their venue for our Training, that would be a great reduction in costs for interested participants. Remember, these training are endorsed and also will get Certificate of Participation from the WORLD MEDIATION ORGANIZATION... and receive Advance credits towards further studies if they so wish to take their career to the next level. Some of the successful participants of this course are now or have been involved in UN missions across the globe.
Will these TOPICS catch your interest in your PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT aspirations? Diversity and common understanding in the field of Mediation Understanding Parallels between Micro and Macro Conflicts Practicing an International Case : Topic:Child Abduction by their own separated parent(non-custodial parent). Family Dispute Resolution Practice on a cross-border scenario. Group work dynamics. Break and further Reflections and discussions. Get back as a group again and do Round Table Discussions and Feedback as a whole group. Day 2/Process optimizing Communication Tools Breaking through Impasse Creating Positive Internal Representation after Exploration and Before Private Session through Clarifying Questions, use of awareness predicates, conditional phrases mixing it with clarifying question techniques......use of adverbs and adjectives to tap on parties' internal positions, representations, their pictures, their story... then....continue lots of inter-active-participation with participants contributing all their experiences/doubts/techniques and discussing these on a Multi-cultural awareness level but taking it to a higher level of COMPETENCY. Practicing an international case using Cross-cultural competency and cross-cultural communication skills. Day 3/ Introducing Restorative Justice as a tool of applied Mediation Reconciliation as a tool of Applied Mediation - Australian scenario, Philippine Scenario - South African Scenario - Vietnam scenario Practicing an International Case - Adding Restorative Justice and Reconciliation. (international cases and Group work dynamics and followed by Feedback Round Table discussions. — with Salvador C. Vilches and 6 others.
A "peek-preview" of the contents of the 3-days Intensive National Training for ASEAN member nations who are into Mediation Practice or would be interested to become world-class international practicing mediators and possibly participate in UN missions if you take your knowledge and upgrade your training to the next level... Watch out for this page for more news and the sneak-preview of the course content of the National Training.
I wanted to share a recent discovery due to attendance to a World Mediation summit that a presenter showed us a couple of videos of Kids who gave testimonies to them having to undergo a change of name/identity/rehearse who their new family is.... etc etc... because the kidnapping parent (separated couple in dispute) decides to change completely the identity of their child so that the other parent will not locate the missing child. This is in line with my work on Cross-Border Kidnapping on Family Dispute Resolution work. It was truly sad. And all attendees to the Summit were so sad to learn about this. I have been involved in this subject for 28 years but never came across the desperation of a parent to actually even changed the whole identity of a child so that the other parent will not locate them. I guess this is why we network and attend these kind of conventions or conferences... to learn from colleagues who are also passionate about their advocacy.
Upcoming Event:: rolling National Training for ASEANations 2015 kick-off : a 3-Days Intensive Training ..... watch out for more details as we are trying to organize for it to happen in 7 Cities/Metropolitan areas around the country (2015)... World Mediation Organization in collaboration with the Euclid University and for further credit towards further studies to the next level to qualify you for future UN Missions through the Peace Operations Training Institute with the American Military Academy.
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The cover photo is the GROUP that participated in the WORLD MEDIATION SUMMIT 2014, Madrid July 1-4,
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About the necessity to meet in person.
A misConception of Conflict?