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The Tulsa Scottish Rite Clinic, established in 1977, is the primary charitable project of the Tulsa Scottish Rite Charitable and Educational Foundation.
Who are the children we serve? The children we serve have difficulty talking, understanding, remembering, reading, and/or writing. To be eligible for services at our clinic, children must be at least 18 months of age and younger than age 12. Our clients have specific language impairment, which is a communication disorder not caused by permanent hearing loss, emotional disturbance, autism spectrum disorder, or below average intelligence. Age and type of disorder are the only criteria for a child to receive treatment in our clinic; Masonic affiliation is not a requirement. What services are provided at the Clinic? Eligible children are seen at the Clinic for evaluation and therapy, usually for an hour once weekly. A clinician works not only with the children but also with the parents or caregivers. Home Therapy Management is family centered, since at least one parent is trained to administer therapy to one or more children at home. The parent is given as much support as necessary to be an effective home therapist. In addition to speech-language-reading evaluation and therapy, hearing testing is a service provided to our clients. Who provides the services? The Clinic is staffed by a team of speech-language pathologists. They are assisted by an office administrator. All clinicians have earned Master’s Degrees in Speech-Language Pathology and are licensed by the State of Oklahoma. Each clinician has earned her Certificate of Clinical Competence through the American Speech-Language and Hearing Association. Hearing testing is provided by a licensed, certified audiologist, who works with the Clinic on a contract basis. How can a child be referred? A parent or legal guardian should contact the Clinic during normal business hours (8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m., Monday through Thursday) to provide basic information about the child and his/her difficulties. From this information, the clinicians will determine how best to help the child. What is the fee for the services of the Clinic? The going rate for comparable services obtained on a fee for service basis is approximately $75 - $100 per hour. However as our clinic is the primary charitable endeavor of the Tulsa Scottish Rite, all services are provided at no charge. We do not bill for our services, therefore ability to pay is not a criterion for treatment. How can I help? Our clinic receives no grants from governmental agencies or the United Way. We are able to provide our services through the generous donations of Scottish Rite Masons, interested individuals, e.g. parents and grandparents, groups, and foundations. Contributions in any amount from client families are gratefully accepted. Contact Us Call us at (918) 622-7064, ext. 19, fax us at (918) 622-7762, or send us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. If you know of a child we can help, please encourage his/her parent or guardian to contact us; we want to help!
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Hope everyone had a great Turkey Day! For the Christmas Holiday the Clinic will be closed Christmas Eve, Wed. Dec. 24th & Christmas Day, Thurs, Dec 25th. Please check with your clinician to see if she will be gone other days around the holidays. Have a blessed and safe holiday!
This time of year makes me stop and think of all the people in my life. Each and every one of you that have been to the clinic, are at the clinic, and the ones that I have spoken to on the phone have been a positive this year! Thank you for always being cheerful, funny, supportive and just general all around good people! You are all a blessing to our clinic and to me! Have a great and safe holiday.
Greetings!! Hope everyone is staying warm! Where did fall go???? The Clinic will be closed Thursday and Friday next week for Thanksgiving. Check with your clinicians to see if they are taking other days off that week. Have a blessed Thanksgiving!!!
One of my favorite holidays is Halloween! I love all the costumes and the children's excitement. :) Here are a few tips to make your Halloween night safe and fun. Costumes: Make sure that your child's costume is bright, and/or reflective, and flame resistant. If you child is wearing a mask make sure that their eyesight is not blocked, and that they are able to breath freely. WATCH FOR CARS!!!!!! Drivers most of the time cannot see little ones that are darting thru the neighborhood. Carry flashlights so that the kiddos can see where they are going and the cars can see the light. NEVER NEVER NEVER!!! Never go into a stranger's house! Only go to houses that have porch lights on and please go WITH your child to trick or treat. Checking goodies: While most people are wonderful and will not harm a child, there are a few "bad apples" out there. Check your child's goody bag before they eat any. And parents.... that does not mean that you can have ALL the chocolate just because you have to "test" it. :D Have a wonderful and safe Halloween!!!!!
Please do not bring any contagious illness to the Clinic. If your child or anyone else coming into the clinic is sick, please call and cancel the session. Being sick includes coughing , sneezing, runny nose, fever, and/or just not feeling well. Whoever has a fever must be fever free, without medications such as Tylenol, for 24 hours before coming back to this clinic. Please help us do everything possible to keep children, parents, and staff healthy this cold and flu season.
Greetings! Hope everyone has been having a wonderful summer! And with school starting I hope that everyone has a wonderful school year also! Just a head's up, our Clinic will be closed for Labor Day. Remember to drive safe as our little ones are back to school!!!
Calling all Viewmasters!!!! Remember the viewmasters that we loved as kids? Well we have on in our clinic. But alas we need the reels to go with them. So if you have/find/know of any cartoon reels that would love to be adopted by us we'd sure appreciate it!!!! Go Viewmasters!!!
Anxiety.... (D'Arcy Lyness, PhD--Kidshealth.org ) CONTINUED... Symptoms of an anxiety disorder can come on suddenly or can build gradually and linger. Sometimes worry creates a sense of doom and foreboding that seems to come out of nowhere. Kids with anxiety problems may not even know what's causing the emotions, worries, and sensations they have. Disorders that kids can get include: •Generalized anxiety. With this common anxiety disorder, children worry excessively about many things, such as school, the health or safety of family members, or the future in general. They may always think of the worst that could happen. Along with the worry and dread, kids may have physical symptoms, such as headaches, stomachaches, muscle tension, or tiredness. Their worries might cause them to miss school or avoid social activities. With generalized anxiety, worries can feel like a burden, making life feel overwhelming or out of control. •Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). For a person with OCD, anxiety takes the form of obsessions (excessively preoccupying thoughts) and compulsions (repetitive actions to try to relieve anxiety). Phobias. These are intense fears of specific things or situations that are not inherently dangerous, such as heights, dogs, or flying in an airplane. Phobias usually cause people to avoid the things they fear. •Social phobia (social anxiety). This anxiety is triggered by social situations or speaking in front of others. A less common form called selective mutism causes some kids and teens to be too fearful to talk at all in certain situations.
OMG... I just found this article that you HAVE to read.... I totally agree with this lady.... WHY CHILDREN FIDGET: And what we can do about it by: Angela Hanscom A perfect stranger pours her heart out to me over the phone. She complains that her six-year-old son is unable to sit still in the classroom. The school wants to test him for ADHD (attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder). This sounds familiar, I think to myself. As a pediatric occupational therapist, I’ve noticed that this is a fairly common problem today. The mother goes on to explain how her son comes home every day with a yellow smiley face. The rest of his class goes home with green smiley faces for good behavior. Every day this child is reminded that his behavior is unacceptable, simply because he can’t sit still for long periods of time. The mother starts crying. “He is starting to say things like, ‘I hate myself’ and ‘I’m no good at anything.’” This young boy’s self-esteem is plummeting all because he needs to move more often. Over the past decade, more and more children are being coded as having attention issues and possibly ADHD. A local elementary teacher tells me that at least eight of her twenty-two students have trouble paying attention on a good day. At the same time, children are expected to sit for longer periods of time. In fact, even kindergarteners are being asked to sit for thirty minutes during circle time at some schools. The problem: children are constantly in an upright position these days. It is rare to find children rolling down hills, climbing trees, and spinning in circles just for fun. Merry-go-rounds and teeter-totters are a thing of the past. Recess times have shortened due to increasing educational demands, and children rarely play outdoors due to parental fears, liability issues, and the hectic schedules of modern-day society. Lets face it: Children are not nearly moving enough, and it is really starting to become a problem. I recently observed a fifth grade classroom as a favor to a teacher. I quietly went in and took a seat towards the back of the classroom. The teacher was reading a book to the children and it was towards the end of the day. I’ve never seen anything like it. Kids were tilting back their chairs back at extreme angles, others were rocking their bodies back and forth, a few were chewing on the ends of their pencils, and one child was hitting a water bottle against her forehead in a rhythmic pattern. This was not a special needs classroom, but a typical classroom at a popular art-integrated charter school. My first thought was that the children might have been fidgeting because it was the end of the day and they were simply tired. Even though this may have been part of the problem, there was certainly another underlying reason. We quickly learned after further testing, that most of the children in the classroom had poor core strength and balance. In fact, we tested a few other classrooms and found that when compared to children from the early 1980s, only one out of twelve children had normal strength and balance. Only one! Oh my goodness, I thought to myself. These children need to move! Ironically, many children are walking around with an underdeveloped vestibular (balance) system today--due to restricted movement. In order to develop a strong balance system, children need to move their body in all directions, for hours at a time. Just like with exercising, they need to do this more than just once-a-week in order to reap the benefits. Therefore, having soccer practice once or twice a week is likely not enough movement for the child to develop a strong sensory system. Children are going to class with bodies that are less prepared to learn than ever before. With sensory systems not quite working right, they are asked to sit and pay attention. Children naturally start fidgeting in order to get the movement their body so desperately needs and is not getting enough of to “turn their brain on.” What happens when the children start fidgeting? We ask them to sit still and pay attention; therefore, their brain goes back to “sleep.” Fidgeting is a real problem. It is a strong indicator that children are not getting enough movement throughout the day. We need to fix the underlying issue. Recess times need to be extended and kids should be playing outside as soon as they get home from school. Twenty minutes of movement a day is not enough! They need hours of play outdoors in order to establish a healthy sensory system and to support higher-level attention and learning in the classroom. In order for children to learn, they need to be able to pay attention. In order to pay attention, we need to let them move.
Anxiety.... (D'Arcy Lyness, PhD--Kidshealth.org paraphrased) Feelings of anxiety are normal for everyone from time to time. These can range from mild to full blown panic depending on the person and situation. "Anxiety is a natural human reaction, and it serves an important biological function: It's an alarm system that's activated whenever we perceive danger or a threat. When the body and mind react, we can feel physical sensations, like dizziness, a rapid heartbeat, difficulty breathing, and sweaty or shaky hands and feet. These sensations — called the fight-flight response — are caused by a rush of adrenaline and other stress hormones that prepare the body to make a quick getaway or "flight" from danger." Children have anxiety too. "Ella was a worrier. Every morning, she worried that she wouldn't make the bus on time, even though she hadn't missed it once all year. And every afternoon, she worried that she wouldn't get her favorite spot at the lunch table, or that she might have a pop quiz in science class and wouldn't be prepared. At night, she worried about getting her homework done and whether her clothes would look right at school the next day. Ella's parents thought this behavior was a typical part of growing up. But when their daughter's teacher said that Ella's anxiety was starting to affect her grades in school and relationships with classmates, they decided it was time to talk to a doctor about finding ways to help Ella deal with her worries."
Good morning all! Let's talk today about .... Anxiety. I will be posting some very interesting articles about anxiety and our children in the upcoming posts. So grab a cup of coffee, and let's sit down and talk about... anxiety.
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Part 7 of the Ways to Help the Angry Child... (finally!!!) Lighten up the perfectionist Children need to learn that it’s all right to goof. You can lighten up the uptight child by modeling ways to handle mistakes. You spill your coffee, you laugh it off, “I guess I win the Mr. Messy award today.” You don’t rant and rave when you leave the shopping list at home. Children learn that adults mess up, too. It’s all right to mess up and it’s normal not to be perfect. This is especially true of the perfectionist who may feel that approval—and therefore his value—depends on error-free living at home and at school. We realized that Matthew was very hard on himself when he didn’t get a task done perfectly at home or at school. We realized he was picking up on our tendency to become angry at our own mistakes. once he saw us lightening up on ourselves, he lightened up on himself. Mistakes are a good way to learn, and we do a lot of learning in our family. When one of us makes a mistake, someone is sure to comment: “Now, what can we learn from this situation?” If the anger button gets pushed this won’t work. Be careful not to react in an angry way when someone spills his milk or tears his pants. Just say, “Now what can we learn from this?” Then, maybe even have a laugh over it. The laugh part will take a lot of work, though, if you were punished angrily for every mistake you made as a child.
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Continued... this is a long one sorry!!!! If you and your child have a healthy relationship, you don’t have to worry that an occasional emotional outburst will harm your child. In fact, it’s healthy for a child to know you’re annoyed or angry. Honest communication sometimes requires honest anger that does not frighten or shame the child. Here is how one mother (she and her child have a healthy attachment) used healthy anger to get through to her child: Discipline story. When my son was three, I was totally exasperated with his behavior one day. He was in what my husband and I call “a dip” — a temporary low spot in maturity and judgment on his life road. He was being exceptionally testing that day, and after repeated time-outs, which apparently meant nothing to him, exile to his room was the next step. I sat him on his bed. He raced me to the door. I tried it again a bit more firmly (as though there was some sort of adhesive on his pants that wasn’t working properly). He did the same thing again (of course). I sat him on the bed again, a little too firmly, I felt, and was angry at myself. I sat on the bed with him, and was angry clear through, so I said very loudly, “Listen! Do you think this is a fun game for me? It isn’t! In fact, I hate it! Do you know why I am here! Do you know why I’m going to keep it up until you get it right? Because I love you, and I’m not just going to stand by and watch you grow up and act like a jerk!” I was livid and couldn’t even stop myself from shouting the words, “I love you” in total anger. But when Sammy heard the word “jerk” he laughed. It wasn’t a giddy what’s- going-to-happen-to-me-now kind of laugh, it was a sincere giggle at something funny. I realized then that he had never heard the word ‘jerk’ before. What did he think it meant? Taken literally, I suppose it must have conjured up a pretty comical mental picture. This little levity, though, gave us the needed opportunity to talk calmly and resolve the issue with quiet ‘I love you’s’ and hugs, then he completed the required time-out in his room, followed by more love and hugs. My point in relating this story is you can read all you want about how to teach your children what is right, but in the heat of the battle when your wits are at their end, you’re going to revert to just being yourself and saying what you think on a gut level. This is risky, of course, and potentially damaging if it gets out of hand. Yet when your relationship with your child is based on a solid attachment, letting yourself go will most often work to your advantage. Sometimes sincerity is the only thing that will penetrate even the toughest brick wall that stubborn children set up.
Continued... Part 5 & 6 Ways to help the Angry Child... Also, we wanted our children to feel comfortable approaching us, no matter what they had done or how they felt. So we promised to eliminate the fear factor: “Here’s the deal. Your mom and I promise not to yell at you as long as you talk to us. We will listen calmly to anything you tell us. We will not yell.” This did not happen overnight, and we still “blow it” from time to time. When this happens, we apologize and move on. Displays of anger scare children and put them on the defensive. They will either retreat into a protective shell or grow to have an angry personality themselves. Once we removed the barrier of fear, Peter came out of his room. And we continue to work on our communication. We’ve learned to calmly say, “I get angry when you…” Children and spouses need to know what makes you angry. They don’t need to have your anger spewed all over them. Small children are devastated by the sight of big, scary, out-of-control daddy or raging mommy. They fear that the parent will stop loving them, hurt them, or leave. You don’t want your child to have to squelch the flow of his normal feelings because he’s frightened of what he might set off in you. Adults should be responsible for controlling themselves. The child should not be put in a position where he starts to feel responsible for controlling your rage. This sets up very dysfunctional patterns as your child grows. If your anger is out of control and scaring your child, seek help! You need to learn that it is not wrong to feel angry, even as an adult (remember—you have a heartbeat). Unfortunately, many of us as children were taught that anger is bad, sinful, or very frightening. Anger itself is not right or wrong—it is a normal response. It’s what we do with anger that can be very wrong. Staying calm in the face of any feeling (anger, fear, even love) is a measure of emotional maturity. Your child will learn how to handle his anger by watching you. Our goal is to acknowledge and communicate our feelings (so our children know we are real people) and at the same time model to them the kind of real people we want them to become.
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Part 5 & 6 of the Ways to help the Angry Child... this section will be a long one so I will cut it up into bite size chunks! Model appropriate expressions of anger Anger that is expressed inappropriately blocks your ability to discipline wisely. For example, your four-year-old does something stupid. She covers the dog with spaghetti sauce, and the dog bounds off into the living room leaving orange-red paw prints on the white carpeting. This is not the time to blow your top. The more aggravating the deed, the more you need a clear head to evaluate your options in handling the misbehavior. Each situation is different, and you must be able to think straight to choose the reaction that best fits the action. Being in a state of rage clouds your thinking. Your unthinking expressions of anger cause the situation to escalate. You hit the dog (which causes him to run through more rooms leaving more sauce behind); you spank the child and send him to his room (which leaves you, still seething, to clean up the mess alone). By the time the episode is over everyone feels abused. An approach less draining on everyone requires a level head and a dose of humor: quickly grab the dog and head for the bath tub, calling for your child to come along (in the most cheerful voice possible) to help de-sauce the dog and then the rug. Your child learns how you handle a crisis and how much work it is to clean up a mess. A temper tantrum from you can’t undo the childish mess, it can only add to it. Anger puts a barrier between parents and child. Our children taught us this lesson. We saw a distance developing between us and our seventeen-year-old, Peter. We weren’t communicating comfortably with each other. Our then fourteen- year-old daughter said, “He stays in his room to escape the yelling. He’s afraid you’ll get angry and yell.” We hadn’t thought of ourselves as an angry, yelling family, but Peter felt we were and so he recoiled from family interaction to preserve his peaceful self. This quote from Hayden explains in a nutshell why anger creates distance, especially in a child like Peter, who has a laid-back temperament. Hayden’s openness prompted us to reevaluate our show of emotions. We called a family meeting, acknowledged that yelling seemed to be a problem we needed to deal with, apologized for this failing, and discussed how that would change.
Part 4 of the Ways to Help the Angry Child... Laughter – the best medicine for anger Humor diffuses anger and keeps trivial upsets from escalating. Our kids love spaghetti – the messier the sauce, the more they love it. Once at dinner we left the older kids in charge of the two- and five-year-old, who were dawdling over their messy meal. As often happens in large families, the oldest child delegated responsibility to the next oldest and so on down the line: “You watch the kids…” Lauren and Stephen were ultimately left unsupervised, and a spaghetti frenzy ensued. When we discovered the stringy mess we scolded the older kids for allowing it to happen. While we yelled at them, they yelled at each other. Lauren and Stephen peered up at their angry elders, sauce covering their cheeks and foreheads and spaghetti in their hair. We all began to laugh, and worked together, in good spirits, to clean up the kids and the mess. Now when we delegate authority, we’re more careful to be sure the appropriate-aged child really is on duty.
Part 3 of the Ways to Help the Angry Child... Look beneath the “bad” kid The habitually misbehaving child is usually an angry child. If your child seems “bad” all the time or you “don’t know what else to do” or your child seems withdrawn, search beneath the surface for something that is angering your child. In counseling parents of these children, I have found two causes: Either there is a lot of family anger – mother and/or father is on edge all the time and the child incorporates these feelings as part of himself; or the child feels angry because his sense of well- being is threatened. Helping children who misbehave repeatedly or seem “bad” more than “good” usually begins with a total family overhaul. Take inventory of the influences in your child’s life. What builds up his self-esteem? What tears it down? What needs are not being met? What inner anxiety is at the root of the anger? Anger is only the tip of the iceberg, and it warns of needs to be dealt with beneath the surface. Inner anger often causes a child to withdraw. In a struggle to ward off attacks on a shaky self-image, this child puts on a protective shell. On the surface he may seem calm, but underneath a tight lid is a pressure cooker of emotions needing to be channeled or recognized. To keep the lid on, the child withdraws, avoiding interaction that might set him off. This is why we advise getting behind the eyes and into the mind of your child – things may look different from that perspective. It’s devastating for a child to feel that she is a “bad kid.” Unless that feeling is reversed, the child grows up acting the part. To get the “bad” feeling out of your child, intervene with a reassuring “You’re not bad, you’re just young, and young people sometimes do foolish things. But Daddy is going to help you stop doing them so you will grow up feeling like you are the nice person I know you are.” This sends a message to your child that you care enough to find the good child beneath the bad behavior.
Part 2 of the Ways to Help the Angry Child... 2. Don’t let your child stuff anger Encourage your child to recognize when he is angry, starting with the toddler. Be an attentive listener, helping your child work through feelings. Given a willing audience that shows empathy rather than judgment, children will often talk themselves out of their snits. Our eight-year-old, Matthew, insisted on watching a certain TV program. I disagreed, and he became angry. Matt felt that he absolutely had to watch the program. I felt that the program content was harmful to his growing self and to family harmony. I listened attentively and nonjudgmentally while Matt pleaded his case. After he had made his appeal, I made mine. With calm authority, I made my own points, while conveying to Matt that I understood but did not agree with his viewpoint. I asked him probing questions, such as: “What about the program is so important to you?” “Could you think of an activity that is more fun than watching this program?” “Matt, do you understand why I don’t want you to watch it?” “Are you just bored? If so, I have an idea…” Gradually Matt realized that this program was not worth getting so worked up about. As the dialogue continued, his eyes dried and his reddened face relaxed. I’m sure his pulse rate was coming down, too. We ended this encounter with a chuckle about how he had let such a stupid program upset him. We went out and played catch instead.
7 Ways to Help the Angry Child Posted on August 12, 2013 by admin in Discipline & Behavior ASKDRSEARS While no person or no family can be anger-proof there are ways you can help your child get a handle on anger. 1. Help your child have inner peace Research has shown, and our experience supports the observation, that connected children and their parents get angry with each other less. The connected child, growing up with a sense of well- being, has peaceful modeling. He will get angry, but he learns to handle the anger in such a way that it does not take over his personality. Connected parents know their children well, so they are less likely to create situations that provoke them and their children to anger. Attached parents know they don’t have to be harsh to be in control. The unconnected child operates from inner turmoil. Down deep this child feels something important is missing in his self and he is angry about it. (This feeling may continue into adulthood.) This void is likely to reveal itself as anger toward himself and parents, placing everyone at risk for becoming an angry family. More to come...
I found a fabulous article that I want to share with you all. It is too long to post all of it so I will be putting parts of it in the coming week.
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